Stage 3: The Training

When the Work Begins

You've answered The Call. You've pushed through Resistance. And now you find yourself in a new space—one that feels less dramatic but no less important.

This is The Training.

For me, Training began in that year of silence. After I sent the email. After the world didn't end but also didn't immediately get better.

I was alone with myself—maybe for the first time in my life. And in that uncomfortable, uncertain space, I started doing the real work.

I dug into my past. I faced the patterns I'd been avoiding. I started dismantling the voice in my head that had been running my life—the one that wasn't even mine.

Training isn't glamorous. It's daily. It's repetitive. It's unglamorous growth that no one sees.

But it's where heroes are built.

What Is The Training?

The Training is the preparation phase—where you develop the strength, skills, and mindset you'll need for what comes next.

It's not about one big breakthrough moment. It's about small, consistent choices that build over time:

• Learning new habits

• Challenging old beliefs

• Building mental and physical strength

• Developing resilience

• Practicing courage in small ways

• Trusting yourself more each day

For me, Training looked like:

• Therapy and deep self-reflection

• Reading books that challenged my thinking

• Listening to "Unstoppable" by Sia on repeat (my anthem, my reminder)

• Working through the pain of that silence

• Learning to hear my own voice instead of everyone else's

It wasn't fast. It wasn't easy. But every single day, I was becoming someone new.

Signs You're in the Training Stage

You might be in Training if:

• You're building new routines - Small daily habits that align with who you're becoming

• You're learning new skills - Whether practical or emotional/mental

• You feel momentum building - Not overnight success, but steady progress

• You're starting to trust yourself more - Your inner voice is getting clearer

• You're seeing small wins - Little victories that prove you're growing

• You're developing competence - Things that felt impossible are starting to feel doable

• You're less reactive - Old triggers don't control you like they used to

• You're preparing for something - Even if you don't know exactly what yet

Training is where transformation becomes tangible. You're not just thinking about change—you're actively building it.

Why Training Feels Boring (And Why That's a Good Thing)

Here's the uncomfortable truth: Training is repetitive.

It's doing the same thing over and over. Showing up when you don't feel like it. Making the choice again and again and again.

There's no applause. No one's watching. No dramatic music playing in the background.

It's just you, every day, doing the work.

During my year of silence, I had days where I wanted to give up. Where the work felt pointless. Where I wondered if any of it would actually matter.

But I kept going.

I kept showing up for therapy. Kept doing the reflective work. Kept listening to that song. Kept choosing myself even when it felt like nothing was changing.

And here's what I learned: Boring consistency builds unstoppable strength.

The hero who trains in silence becomes the hero who can handle the battle when it comes.

How to Stay Committed During Training

Training requires discipline. Here's how to stick with it:

1. Track your progress Write down your small wins. Journal your growth. Notice how far you've come, even if it doesn't feel like much.

2. Celebrate the unsexy victories Did you set a boundary? Celebrate it. Did you choose the hard right over the easy wrong? That counts. Did you show up today even though you didn't want to? Victory.

3. Trust the process You won't see results immediately. That's okay. Growth is happening beneath the surface even when you can't see it yet.

4. Find your anthem For me, it was "Unstoppable" by Sia. That song reminded me who I was becoming. Find something—a song, a quote, a mantra—that anchors you to your why.

5. Do the deep work Don't just go through the motions. Really examine yourself. Face the hard truths. Dismantle the beliefs that aren't serving you.

6. Build your toolkit Identify the habits, tools, and practices that make you stronger. Then use them. Every. Single. Day.

What Training Builds in You

Training doesn't just prepare you for the next stage. It fundamentally changes who you are.

During my Training, I learned:

• How to hear my own voice - For the first time, I could tell the difference between my thoughts and everyone else's opinions

• How to trust myself - I started making choices based on what I knew was right, not what would keep the peace

• How to be consistent - I showed up for myself even when no one was watching

• How to build resilience - I got stronger—mentally, emotionally, spiritually

• How to believe in my own transformation - I started to see that I really could become someone new

By the time The Battle arrived, I had something I'd never had before: a foundation I'd built myself.

And I was going to need it.

Journal Entries from This Stage

Want to read more about my experience with Training? Check out these journal entries:

• Vol. 1, Issue #003 — "The Hardest Yes" (Choosing yourself despite fear and resistance)

• Vol. 1, Issue #004 — "The Voice in Savannah" (Finding connection and community in a new place)

Toolkit Resources to Support This Stage

• Strength Toolkit - Building resilience through consistent habits

• Courage Toolkit - Practicing bravery in small daily ways

• Faith Toolkit - Trusting the process when progress feels slow

• Hope Toolkit - Staying anchored to purpose during the grind

What Comes Next: Stage 4 - The Battle

Training prepares you. But eventually, the real test arrives.

Everything you've built—all the strength, all the habits, all the growth—will be challenged. The Battle stage is where your transformation gets tested in the fire.

And it's where you find out if you're really ready.

Explore Stage 4: The Battle →